A not-so-wise man once said, “Any self defence advice is good advice.” While the intent is well-meaning, nothing could be further from the truth. Bad self defence advice is like bad medical advice; at best it will get you sick and at worst, it will get you killed
We host thousands of people around the world in our COBRA courses and ask them how they would handle self defence situations. Here are the top 10 worst answers that we commonly hear:
1. JUST WALK AWAY
Avoiding a fight or confrontation is always the absolute best option, and taking the “high road” is something to which we should all aspire. But what if walking away is NOT an option? There are many situations where you have no choice but to stand your ground. Perhaps the aggressor in front of you isn’t a reasonable person, is damaged and determined to harm you, and you’re cornered. In this case, there’s only one choice and that is to take a stand. Turning your back and trying to walk away will only make you more vulnerable.
2. BUY A RAPE WHISTLE
With the “Rape Whistle”, it is theorised that you blow it and help comes running. Unfortunately, when you blow it your attacker’s instinct is to stop the noise as fast as possible and that noise is located IN YOUR FACE. Look, if a rape whistle will deter him, yelling at him will as well. In addition, sadly, many victims of rape also tell us that the notion of blowing the whistle while you’re being raped is insane.
3. MOST FIGHTS GO TO THE GROUND
Some fights go to the ground, but the statement that most fights go to the ground is unsubstantiated and was made up by people who specialise in GROUND FIGHTING. There is no study that supports this statement. Use of force and crime reports by police include motive and intent but they don’t include “technique and style”.
We recommend that you NEVER choose the ground and if you get on the ground – get up as fast as possible. The more body contact you have with your attacker the more power, strength, size and skill come into play. Add to that the real chance of your attacker having a weapon, multiple attackers and lying on a hard surface filled with debris, like glass and rock, the ground is not a place you want to go. It also makes it much harder to get up and run away to escape if you are on the ground.
4. LET HIM THROW THE FIRST PUNCH
What “worked” in a schoolyard doesn’t work in the street. Action is faster than reaction – In the street, by the time you identify the strike and tell your arm to move you’re probably going to get hit. But the first punch isn’t your biggest problem… it’s the second, third and fourth punches, those tend to do the real damage.
In combat sport you’re expecting the punch. You can gauge your distance and you know he’s going to attack you. He’s also going to attack you with a limited number of techniques based on the rules of the contest. In the real world, you’re not sure if he’s even going to attack you.
Legally there’s NOTHING that requires you to wait for him to throw the first punch. If you FEEL you’re in danger and he is capable of harming you, YOU CAN USE REASONABLE FORCE to defend yourself.
5. MAKE A MESS IN YOUR PANTS
The advice to “urinate, defecate or vomit” on yourself during a rape is a popular thing told to women. There is NO evidence that supports this statement. Truth be told, you might make a mess of yourself anyway during the attack, but it does not guarantee it will discourage your attacker. Your energy is better spent on something more productive than trying to make yourself pee, like fighting back and escaping.
6. ALWAYS CALL THE POLICE
“Dial 000 and let the professionals handle it” is a popular statement made by the talking heads on TV. Unfortunately, police can’t be everywhere and they’re not your personal bodyguard. Response times average around 5 -12 minutes nationally and when you’re being attacked, that’s like 5 – 12 minutes underwater.
Call if you can (and absolutely call afterwards when you are safe), but you’re still going to have a 5 minute fight while you wait for the police to arrive and that’s a LONG TIME when you have someone trying to hurt you.
7. ALWAYS REMAIN CALM
Remaining calm and reasonable is something that you can do in training– but when something happens in real life you have ZERO control over it because when you truly believe your life is in danger, your Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) kicks in and evolution takes over. Not only will you lose control of your fine (small) motor skills, but your deductive reasoning and even your ability to speak are turned off.
Now you can control your breathing somewhat (we call it “combat breathing”), but that’s just to stop you from passing out – it’s not meditation. In reality you need to channel that adrenaline rush into large, motor movements and that will turn it into power and, hopefully, escape.
8. CONTROL THE WEAPON
This is the idea that you MUST control the weapon first because if you lose control of it, your attacker will use it or one of his friends will pick it up. This seems like a good idea, but in reality it doesn’t work. Because while you’re trying to wrestle over the weapon, you still need to deal with your attacker and his friends.
While you chase the weapon you’ll be vulnerable to other attacks. Grappling with the knife hand can temporarily stop the initial assault, but the attack is just beginning. You have done little to slow him down. He can still punch you in the head or an accomplice can bash your skull in with a rock. A weapon is as only as dangerous as the person holding it. The fastest way to stop a weapon attack is to stop the man holding the weapon. CLEAR THE WEAPON and ATTACK THE MAN. As for his buddies? You can only handle what’s right in front of you. Keep fighting and moving forward.
9. JUST ‘HIT ’EM IN THE NUTS!’
There is NO DOUBT that blasting a man in his twig and berries hurts. But depending on ONE MOVE to work flawlessly (especially without practice) is ignorant. In the real world you miss and most people don’t even know how to attack this area correctly.
You need to either SMASH them from underneath or SQUEEZE THEM.
In order to hit the testicles and cause the target to go into shock you need to come from directly underneath and smash the testicles against the pelvis. In order for that to happen you will need his legs to be apart so your foot, shin or hand will hit it’s mark. Keep in mind the genitals are fairly important to the survival of our species, so they’re placed in a location that can be defended easily. Every man on the planet has lighting fast reactions when you go to this area.
Having your life depend on ONE single technique to ONE specific target area isn’t much of a plan…its a wish.
10. DON’T FIGHT BACK
The idea that fighting back only makes it worse is the absolute opposite of what’s actually true. The problem is that some people think of self defence in terms of a competitive fight – you fight back hard, they fight back harder. Don’t think of self defence as a competition, think of this as PREDATOR and PREY.
Take a shark attack for example. People have successfully defended themselves against an attack by punching and kicking the shark. In reality, if that shark really wanted to kill them it could, no problem. But because they fight back they’re not acting like a seal. Therefore the shark leaves because the target isn’t acting as it should.
Criminals and deviants THINK THE EXACT SAME WAY. They plan on your crumbling and submitting. This is an expected behaviour. When you behave in the opposite way, it short circuits their process and they tend to break off at that point.
According to the statistics, 87% of women who resist either verbally or physically are successful in stopping the attack, as opposed to 100% of women that don’t resist who are tragically raped and killed.
Fight back, even if you don’t know how. The odds are incredibly in your favour.
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